2017 has gone by in a flash! So many great things have happened this year; our wedding, our honeymoon, two house moves and starting my final year of university. My mental health is the best it has been in a very long time and I feel happy. This year has taught me a lot and I thought I’d share the five most important things I have learned in 2017.
- Forgive but do not forget. I have always been the kind of person who both forgives and forgets when someone treats me bad. Apologies are hard and I appreciate any kind of olive branch within a conflict. However, just because someone is sorry for their behaviour, it does not excuse it. Forgiveness is important but there is no obligation to sweep anything under the carpet. Learn from these conflicts. Respect yourself and your boundaries.
- It’s okay to walk away. It is more than okay to remove yourself from a situation or person by which you do not feel respected or valued. Even if you have said you will stay. Sometimes walking away is the best solution for all involved and some people are damaging for you. It is okay to put your peace first.
- Not everyone is your friend and that’s okay too. You have a home team of friends and family and they will usually reveal themselves in both good and bad times in your life. Appreciate and acknowledge those people who both celebrate your successes and commiserate with you in your sad times.
- Be in the moment. Anxiety has been at the forefront of my life for what seems like the last forever. This year has been the year I have made strides with my mental health, so much so that I have been slowly decreasing my medication. This year, especially on our beautiful wedding day and throughout my honeymoon, I managed to completely overcome any anxious thoughts and be in the moment. And it felt incredible. For the remainder of the year, I tried my hardest to try to be in the moment instead of worrying my way through life.
- You’ll always fail if you don’t try. This is important. For so many years I have hid behind “I can’t” or “I will, someday“. This year, I have learned that if you really want to do something, you should do it. No excuses. Life is short and I’d rather end up with lots of “oh well”s than “what if?”s.
2017 has been an incredible year, mostly good with some bad. I am so excited to see in 2018 and put all I have learned this year into practise. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and a brilliant New Year.
See you in 2018!!!!